許多是自我強加的），人們失衡很常見。再加上與周圍可能仍然生活在陳舊的調教和信仰體系中的家人在一起，這些家人與您的身份不符，並且其存在可能很快使未解決的傷害浮出水面，這是引發和反應的秘訣。後來，大多數開明的人都對這種反應感到反悔，的確對自己感到很難。
The holiday season can be stressful for many of you. Due to its hectic nature and demands (many of them self imposed) it is common for people to get out of balance. That, combined with being around family members who may still be living by old conditioning and belief systems that do not match who you are and whose presence may very quickly bring to the surface unresolved hurts, is a recipe for getting triggered and reactive. Most enlightening human beings later feel great remorse for having that response and can be quite hard on themselves, indeed.
如果您確實在假期期間被觸發，那麼要做的第一件事就是簡單地原諒自己。理解這是尋求愛與同情的一部分。您那部分需要什麼？花時間坐下來，去愛它，放心它，給它同情心和一個安全的空間，讓它被傾聽。一部分您需要做的最後一件事就是讓您自責。它需要您的愛和指導，而這完全是您自己奉獻給自己的能力。
If you did get triggered during the holidays, the first thing to do is to simply forgive yourself. Understand this is a part of you that is seeking your love and compassion. What does that part of you need from you? Take the time to sit with it, to love it, to reassure it, to give it compassion and a safe space to be heard. The last thing that part of you needs is for you to be berating yourself. It needs your love and guidance, and that is well within your capability to give to yourself.
花時間先以愛心和同情心照顧自己，這是在將來的假期中保持平衡的第一步。接下來，檢查您可能如何使自己失去平衡。您承擔的費用是否超出了您的預期？您是否付出了太多，卻不允許自己獲得幫助？您真的不需要什麼？您如何改善自我保健？現在是重新檢查假期處理方式並使其達到更好平衡的理想時間。
Taking the time to tend to yourself first, with love and compassion, is the first step to being able to keep your balance during future holidays. Next, examine how you might have allowed yourself to get out of balance. Did you take on more than you should have? Did you over give and not allow yourself to receive assistance? What did you take on that really wasn’t necessary? How could you have improved your self care? Now is the ideal time to reexamine how you handle holidays and to move them into a better balance.
如果您現在宣布下個假期將如何進行更改，人們將有足夠的時間來適應更改，並且當時間到來時不會感到震驚。改變家庭的成長方式非常重要。有沒有新的家庭成員可以成為您的傳統的一部分並提供幫助？孩子長大了，現在可以提供更多幫助嗎？詢問人們他們希望如何貢獻。您可能會驚訝地發現，比起現在您願意接受的幫助，可以提供的幫助要多得多。您如何使假期對包括您在內的每個人來說都更容易管理和更快樂？您希望保留的所有東西都有哪些可愛而有趣的傳統？
If you announce now how you will be changing things up for the next holidays, people will have plenty of time to adjust to the change and will not be shocked when the time comes. It’s important to shift with how your family has grown. Are there new members of the family who can become part of your traditions and assist? Have children grown to be older and can now help more? Ask people how they would like to contribute. You might be surprised to realize there’s more help available to you than you realized now that you are open to the help. How could you make holidays more manageable and more joyful for everyone involved, including you? What traditions are lovely and enjoyed by all that you wish to keep?
最後，花點時間來製定策略，以應對人們在未來假期遇到的困難時能做出反應的新方法。把它們寫下來，放到明年你會發現它們的地方，因為人類有一種只想繼續前進而忘記的趨勢。當您有一個計劃時，當這些觸發因素發生時，您將不會措手不及，並且您將能夠以嶄新的方式做出回應，因為您會有所準備。
Last of all, take a moment to make a strategy on new ways you can respond if people do the things that you find difficult in future holiday get togethers. Write them down and leave them where you will find them next year, because humans have a tendency to just want to move on and forget. When you have a plan you won’t get caught off guard when those triggers occur and you will be able to respond in brand new ways because you will be prepared.
親愛的親們，如果您覺得自己本可以做得更好，請不要自欺欺人。遺憾地創建了可以更好地服務於每個人的新戰略。如有必要，請向您道歉。如果您接受道歉，請接受。如果給予或接受作為親切的聯繫點，請繼續關注道歉，如果再次開始討論，請避免陷入同樣的問題。請記住，隨著音樂的改變，舞步也隨之改變。
Dear Ones, please do not beat yourselves up if you feel you could have handled things better. Use your regret to create new strategies that better serve everyone involved. Apologize if necessary. Accept apologies if you receive them. Stay focused on the apology if given or received as a loving connection point and resist getting drawn back into the same old issue if it starts to go there again. Remember, as you change the music, the dance steps change.
請知道您的家庭是您正在釋放和康復的調節和信念系統的誕生地，因此，它們通常是您掌握的最後一個領域。對自己要友善和溫柔，原諒自己和其他人不會更好，也知道下次您總是可以選擇其他方式。這是您進化的全部部分，而觸發因素則使您可以聚焦在最需要您引導愛和養育自己的地方，這是一件奇妙而充滿力量的事情。〜大天使加百利通過雪莉·楊
Please know your families are where the conditioning and belief systems you are releasing and healing beyond were born, and because of that they are often the last territory you master. Be kind and gentle with yourselves, forgive yourselves and others for not knowing better, and know you can always choose differently next time. This is all part of your evolution and the triggers serve to shine a spotlight on where you need to direct your love and nurturing for yourself the most, and that is a wonderful and empowering thing. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young
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