Your boundaries can be malleable without making you weak, inconsistent, or vulnerable if you are making them in a per case basis with the criteria that your connection point is a place that is safe and empowering for everyone involved.
There may be some people in your life who are not safe for you to be in close proximity with. Those people will need to be kept at a distance. In fact, in those cases, you may choose to have a boundary of no contact at all. This is perfectly appropriate if their behaviour is abusive or causes you distress. It is never empowering to support another in showing up in a lesser version of themselves, either, so no contact can be the highest choice for everyone involved.
還有其他靈魂如此安全和支持你，他們應該獲得 VIP 訪問權。這些人是您可以完全和敞開心扉做自己的人，與他們一起享受美好的愛和支持。這種關係是相互信任的、有益的和令人振奮的。這些人是你的靈魂伴侶，他們給你帶來快樂，就像你給他們的生活一樣增添你的生活。
There are other souls who are so safe and supportive for you they deserve VIP access. These are the people who you can completely and open-heartedly be yourself with, who you enjoy a beautiful flow of love and support with. The relationship is mutually trustworthy, beneficial, and uplifting. These people are your soul companions, who bring you joy, and add to your life just as you add to theirs.
根據我們給出的兩個示例，您能看出嘗試預設一個尺寸適合所有中間地帶邊界系統在任何一種情況下都不會為您服務嗎？在第一種情況下，它會讓你變得脆弱，在第二種情況下，它會讓你錯過深度和尊重聯繫的樂趣。
Based on the two examples we have given, can you see how attempting to have a preset one size fits all middle ground boundary system would not serve you in either instance? In the first case it would leave you vulnerable, in the second it would make you miss out on the joy of deep and respectful connection.
你準備好了。您已準備好運用您的智慧找到與他人的聯繫點，讓您可以在他們所在的地方與他們會面，並為最令人滿意的互動奠定基礎，為所有相關人員提供服務。親愛的，這正是界限的設計目的。〜大天使加百利通過雪莉·楊
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