As you evolve, your boundaries evolve, too. When you are at the beginning of your evolutionary journey, you may be living such a base existence that you are only interested in what you can get from others. You seek to fill yourself up from externals because you think that is the only way you can assure your own survival. Eventually you realize you cannot thrive by only breathing in.
Then, as you begin to awaken, you realize you wish to serve others, so you may over give, not allowing yourself to receive. You may swing wildly from one end of the spectrum to the other. You may feel that you can only feel good about yourself by giving so you give more and more. While your intentions are always noble, that will always ultimately lead to exhaustion. Eventually you realize you cannot thrive by only breathing out.
當您意識到自己是一個過度給予者時，您可能會嘗試通過在混凝土中創建固定線條來找到平衡點，認為這是保護自己和精力的最健康方法。但最終您會意識到，雖然這些行在某些情況下可能對您很有幫助，但它們並不適用於所有情況。你可能會發現自己被自己強加的限制感到孤立和束縛。
As you realize you were an over giver, you might try to find a point of balance by trying to create set lines in concrete, thinking that is the healthiest ways to preserve yourself and your energy. But eventually you realize that while those lines may serve you well in some cases, they don’t apply to all instances. And you may find yourself feeling isolated and constrained by your self imposed restrictions.
最後，你到達了一個地方，你意識到有時候心流支持你給予，而其他時候心流支持你接受。你會開始接受，有些時候別人可能需要更多幫助，或者有些時候需要你進行更多的自我照顧。你也會有智慧知道什麼時候該介入，什麼時候該退後一步，讓他人有機會發現自己的神聖能力，為他們提供安全和鼓勵的空間。
And finally, you arrive at the place where you realize that there are times where the flow supports you in giving, and other times when the flow supports you in receiving. You will come to accept that there are times of intensity where others might require more help, or times of intensity that require you to move into greater self care. You will also have the wisdom to know when it is time to step in and times to step back and allow others the chance to discover their own divine capability, holding a space of safety and encouragement for them to do so.
我們意識到所有這些有時似乎令人困惑。您正在尋找始終適用的硬性規定。但是，當流程總是在流動，人們向前邁出一大步，或者有時需要後退一步以達到重新引導他們所需的底部時，可能很難知道該怎麼做。
We realize all of this can seem confusing at times. You are looking for a hard, fast rule that applies always. But when the flow is always moving, and people are taking huge steps forward, or sometimes needing to take steps backwards in order to hit a bottom that is required in order to redirect them, it can be difficult to know what to do.
這就是為什麼我們在這裡告訴您，您始終可以使用一條通用的經驗法則來控制自己的界限，那就是尋求支持賦予所有相關人員權力的解決方案。
And this is why we are here to tell you there is one general rule of thumb you can always use with your boundaries, and that is to seek the solutions that support the empowerment of everyone involved.
不斷拯救他人阻礙了他們的成長。總是告訴別人該做什麼，而不是支持他們與自己的智慧和能力聯繫起來，這是在傳達一個信息，即你認為他們沒有能力經營自己的生活。人們通過做出自己的決定並從這些行動提供的反饋中學習來成長並獲得信心。
Constantly rescuing another impedes their growth. Always telling another what to do, rather than supporting them to connect with their own wisdom and capability, sends a message that you don’t think they are capable of running their own lives. People grow and gain confidence by making their own decisions and learning from the feedback those actions provide.
如果有人要摔倒，真的對自己造成傷害，當然正確的做法是在他們跌倒之前抓住他們。但我們強烈建議您以始終專注於讓他們再次獨立的目標的方式這樣做。這和教孩子走路沒什麼兩樣。
If someone is about to fall over and truly do harm to themselves, of course the right thing to do is to catch them before they fall. But we highly recommend you do so in a way that is always focused on the goal of them standing on their own again. This is no different than teaching a child how to walk.
界限不是為了阻止人們，而是為了找到一個安全的聯繫空間，尊重每個相關人員的成長和福祉。這包括選擇尊重您自己的安全和支持環境，作為讓您為所有人做出明智和充滿愛的選擇的基礎。〜大天使加百利通過雪莉·楊
Boundaries are not about keeping people out, they are about finding a safe space of connection that honours the growth and well-being of everyone involved. This includes choosing to honour your own safe and supportive environment, as the foundation that allows you to make wise and loving choices for all. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young
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