As we continue our series on boundaries this week, we would like to offer you an analogy that should make it very easy to understand the varying connection points of boundaries.
Imagine, if you will, attending a dance. If your beloved is there and a slow song comes on, you will lovingly take to the middle of the dance floor to sway together in a close and intimate embrace. You may also share the dance floor with others in faster, less intimate dances that still allow you to share an enjoyable experience with another while maintaining more distance between you. And there may be others who you decide you don’t wish to dance with at all.
你會自動回應與舞伴的適當親密程度。但是，無論您在舞蹈期間選擇與他人多親密或分開，您仍然關心參加舞蹈的每個人的幸福，無論您是否與他們一起跳舞。您權衡了所有選擇，並根據您的舒適和願望明智地做出了選擇，同時尊重了每個靈魂進入舞廳的權利。
You automatically respond with whatever is an appropriate level of closeness with your dance partners. But regardless of how close or separate you choose to be with others during the dance, you still care about the well-being of every person who is attending the dance, whether you danced with them or not. You weighed all your options and wisely made your choices based on your comfort and desires while honouring the right of every single soul to be in the dance hall.
你有看到？在成為整體的一部分的同時擁有界限是您已經擁有的技能。在舞會上，您可以根據自己的感受以及在每個案例中的親近程度來做出選擇，您也可以在日常生活中使用該模板。你可以選擇在你的舞蹈卡上寫上誰的名字，以及你想和他們一起跳什麼樣的舞蹈。它不需要比這更複雜。〜大天使加百利通過雪莉·楊
Do you see? Having boundaries while being part of the whole is a skill you already have. At a dance you make your choices based on how you feel and how much closeness is appropriate in a per case basis, and you can use that template in your day to day life, as well. You get to choose whose name you put on your dance card and what kind of dance you would like to do with them. It does not need to be any more complicated than that. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young
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