能知道，您與最親近的人的互動會持有不再需要的模式，但卻不知道如何移動它們。這可能令人生畏，因為許多這些模式從童年起就已經根深蒂固。與此同時，無條件的愛有時會被誤解為意味著允許任何行為繼續以便愛。
As you continue to evolve, a theme that is coming up is moving beyond co-dependency into healthy connection. You may know that your interactions with those closest to you hold patterns that are no longer desired but don’t quite know how to shift them. This can feel daunting because many of these patterns have been well entrenched since childhood. Along with this, unconditional love can sometimes be misunderstood to mean allowing any kind of behaviour to continue in order to be loving.
親愛的，我們有一些簡單的經驗法則可以幫助您在適當的界限中創造更健康的聯繫。首先，永遠不會對他人的健康投入比對自己的投入更多。第二個是，永遠不會比你自己更多地投資於另一個人的健康。
Dear Ones, we have some simple rules of thumb to help you navigate the waters of creating healthier connections with appropriate boundaries. The first is, never become more invested in another person’s wellness than they are in their own. The second is, never become more invested in another person’s wellness than you are in your own.
您正在尋找能夠尊重並賦予所有相關人員權力的連接點。沙子中沒有一條堅固的不可移動的線。如果某人失去平衡以幫助他們自己正確，有時可能需要向前邁進。我們的想法是，您始終提供支持，著眼於能夠讓他們再次獨立的能力。
You are seeking connection points that honour and empower everyone involved. There is not one solid unmovable line in the sand. There may be times where you need to step forward if someone is losing their balance to help them right themselves. The idea is that you always offer your support with an eye towards what will empower them to be able to stand on their own again.
共依賴與舊的條件愛模型相關聯。你擔心，如果你讓別人失望，他們就不會再愛你了。當你改變你與另一個人不健康的舞蹈時，他們可能最初會抵制這種變化而感到不安。但如果你堅持使用新的更健康的模型，就會發生美妙的事情。儘管他們最初的不滿，他們仍會愛你，這讓你和他們都能進入無條件的愛情體驗。
Co-dependency is connected to the old conditional love model. You fear if you disappoint another they will not love you anymore. When you change the unhealthy dance you have with another they may initially resist the change and be upset. But a beautiful thing happens if you stick to your new healthier model. They will still love you despite their initial displeasure, which allows both you and them to move into the experience of unconditional love.
你的愛和聯繫意味著賦予權力，鼓勵和支持。這並不意味著放棄自己或承擔其他人的成長責任。有時候你需要親自退後一步才能發現自己的神聖能力。如果你通過能夠為所有參與者賦權的鏡頭來看待它，你的智慧將永遠知道如何繼續。〜大天使加百利通過雪莉·楊
Your love and connection is meant to be empowering, encouraging, and supportive. It does not mean abandoning yourself or assuming responsibility for someone else’s growth. There may be times you need to lovingly step back in order for someone to discover their own divine capability. Your wisdom will always know how to proceed if you look at it through the lens of what is empowering for everyone involved. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young
原文：https://trinityesoterics.com/2019/09/04/daily-message-wednesday-september-4-2019/
Your love and connection is meant to be empowering, encouraging, and supportive. It does not mean abandoning yourself or assuming responsibility for someone else’s growth. There may be times you need to lovingly step back in order for someone to discover their own divine capability. Your wisdom will always know how to proceed if you look at it through the lens of what is empowering for everyone involved. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young
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